Tell Me What You Want: A Therapist and Her Clients Explore Our 12 Deepest Desires (Hardcover)

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Tell Me What You Want: A Therapist and Her Clients Explore Our 12 Deepest Desires (Hardcover)


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For fans of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and Tiny Beautiful Things, this behind-closed-doors exploration from an acclaimed psychotherapist of the twelve fundamental psychological needs we all share “provides a road map of how one might approach their own transformation by becoming willing to admit their deepest desires” (Christie Tate, New York Times bestselling author).

What do we want? And how do we get it?

Chloe is beautiful and fiercely bright, but she feels desperately deprived. Elliot, lost and adrift, is secretly grieving the loss of his famous lover. Rosie has always tried to follow the rules of cultural expectations, but a year into her marriage, she still hasn’t had sex with her husband. Dwight is determined to be upbeat, even in the face of his wife’s betrayal.

Each of us, at certain moments in our lives, can feel lost or confused. We often don’t know how to get what we want, but we share some universal desires: to love and be loved; understanding, power, attention, freedom; to create, to belong, to win, to connect, to control; and we want what we shouldn’t. In each of these twelve chapters, focused on one of these desires, psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber takes you behind closed doors of her therapy sessions as she guides clients towards startling insights and profound change.

With a warm and compassionate voice, Weber blends dramatic and moving personal stories with careful research in this “brilliant and wise” (The Times, London) guide to living well that will stay with you long after you turn the final page.
Charlotte Fox Weber is a psychotherapist and writer. She cofounded Examined Life and was the founding head of The School of Life Psychotherapy. She grew up in Connecticut and Paris and now lives in London with her husband and two young children. Tell Me What You Want is her first book. Find out more at
Product Details ISBN: 9781982170660
ISBN-10: 1982170662
Publisher: Atria Books
Publication Date: April 11th, 2023
Pages: 320
Language: English
“A perceptive guide to self-knowledge.”—Kirkus Reviews

"In Tell Me What You Want therapist Charlotte Fox Weber illustrates the powerful role that desire plays in human fulfillment. By bringing readers behind the scenes of her intimate therapy sessions, Weber makes a powerful case for articulating desire as a path toward greater mental health and self-actualization. This hopeful book demystifies the therapeutic alliance between counselor and patient and will surely convince even the most skeptical critic that effective counseling can truly transform lives. Most of all, this book provides a roadmap of how one might approach their own transformation by becoming willing to admit their deepest desires." --Christie Tate, New York Times bestselling author of Group

"Finely crafted, profound, and always generous, Tell Me What You Want is a very special book. Charlotte doesn't provide neat answers that promise to change your life. Instead she invites you to see the one you are living anew, in all its shining complexity. It made me feel excited to be alive." --Natasha Lunn, author of Conversations in Love

"A powerful, original, and beautiful account of human desire and fear, as revealed through her clinical encounters....She writes beautifully and, with humor and insight, reveals us to ourselves. A wonderful book." --Anna Motz, author of If Love Could Kill

"Everyone should read this book." --Poppy Jamie, author of Happy Not Perfect

"Brilliant and wise advice."  --The Saturday London Times

"Like being a fly on the wall in the therapist's jargon, just beautifully human experiences viewed and analyzed through the eyes of a caring expert." --Angela Scanlon, author of Joyrider

"The case studies are testament to the power of therapy … [the writing is] thoughtful, lucid and blessedly free of therapese … Weber’s book is a powerful snapshot into the little bombs going off in the lives and homes of those around us."  --The Sunday Times

"Insightful and deeply empathetic. Charlotte Fox Weber takes us behind the mask of the all-knowing therapist and offers hope that we can actually get better."  --Pamela Druckerman, author of French Children Don't Throw Food and There Are No Grown-Ups